September 4th is World Sexual Health Day. And, it turns out, your sexual health may be better than you realize. Slate has an excellent article on how science is rejecting the concept of pornography addiction (as well as sex addiction and other similar "disorders"). Here's a link to the article:
slate.com/technology/2018/07/why-are-we-still-so-worried-about-watching-porn.html
That being said, or at least linked, I do think watching porn, or sex, or ANYTHING can be problematic, if it's done compulsively, or to avoid other aspects of life. If you are watching porn instead of talking to your partner about what you yearn for in your sex life, you are robbing yourself of that sex in reality. Same thing with any compulsive behavior. Take "exercise addiction" (something my clients, colleagues and anyone who has seen me know I do NOT experience). If you are doing it to avoid emotions or real-life connection, it robs you.
But that being said, chill out about porn in moderation! It doesn't mean you don't desire your partner. It doesn't mean you are being exploitative. And studies find porn watching can ENHANCE, not detract from, your real-life sex life.
Now, how's the rest of your sexual health? Maybe World Sexual Health Day is a good time to take a sex checkup (no doctor necessary...unless you're into medical play!) Are you getting the sex you want? Are you and your partner(s) communicating the way you want? Are you and your sexual desires treated with respect....including by YOURSELF? Some of the worst "slut-shaming" people experience is often done in their own head. (And if you do that....remember SLUT stands for Sexy, Liberated, and UnTamed!)
Here's wishing you great sexual health and freedom....today and every day!
slate.com/technology/2018/07/why-are-we-still-so-worried-about-watching-porn.html
That being said, or at least linked, I do think watching porn, or sex, or ANYTHING can be problematic, if it's done compulsively, or to avoid other aspects of life. If you are watching porn instead of talking to your partner about what you yearn for in your sex life, you are robbing yourself of that sex in reality. Same thing with any compulsive behavior. Take "exercise addiction" (something my clients, colleagues and anyone who has seen me know I do NOT experience). If you are doing it to avoid emotions or real-life connection, it robs you.
But that being said, chill out about porn in moderation! It doesn't mean you don't desire your partner. It doesn't mean you are being exploitative. And studies find porn watching can ENHANCE, not detract from, your real-life sex life.
Now, how's the rest of your sexual health? Maybe World Sexual Health Day is a good time to take a sex checkup (no doctor necessary...unless you're into medical play!) Are you getting the sex you want? Are you and your partner(s) communicating the way you want? Are you and your sexual desires treated with respect....including by YOURSELF? Some of the worst "slut-shaming" people experience is often done in their own head. (And if you do that....remember SLUT stands for Sexy, Liberated, and UnTamed!)
Here's wishing you great sexual health and freedom....today and every day!
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